Abuse and violence is not OK. If you are a victim of domestic violence avoid violent incidents. In order to increase safety, abuse victims may use a variety of strategies. I can use some or all of the following strategies: A. If I decide to leave, I will ____________________________ stairwells, or fire escapes would you use?) B. I can keep my money and my car keys ready and put them C. I can tell __________________________________ about the D. I can teach my children how to use the telephone to contact the E. I will use ___________________________ as a code for my F. If I have to leave my home, I will go ____________________ G. I can also teach some of these strategies to some/all of my move to a space that is lowest risk, such as _________________ __________________________. (Try to avoid such arguments in the bathroom, garage, kitchen, near weapons or in rooms without access to an outside door.) I. I will try to use my judgment and intuition. If the situation is very leave the residence they share with the abusive partner. Leaving must be done with a careful plan in order to increase safety. Abusers often strike back when they believe their victim is leaving the relationship. I can use some or all of the following safety strategies: A. I will leave money and an extra set of keys with __________ B. I will keep copies of important documents or keys at _______ C. I will open a savings account by _______________________, D. Other things I can do to increase my independence include E. I can call the domestic violence hotline number: ___________ F. I will make a list of important phone numbers I might need and G. I can keep change for phone calls on me at all times. I understand H. I will check with ________________________________ and I. I can leave extra clothes with ___________________________. J. I will sit down and review my safety plan every ____________ K. I will rehearse my escape plan and, as appropriate, practice it When I leave I should have: ___ Identification for myself ___ Social Security Cards ___ Checkbook, ATM Card ___ Driver’s License & Registration ___ Bank books, insurance papers ___ My Birth Certificate ___ Children’s Birth Certificates ___ School & Vaccination records ___ Money ___ Credit Cards ___ Keys – house/car/office ___ Medications ___ Passports/Divorce papers ___ Small saleable objects ___ Address Book ___ Pictures, jewelry ___ Children’s favorite toys and/or blankets ___ Items of special sentimental value ___ Welfare identification, work permits, Green Card ___ Lease/rental agreement, house deed, mortgage payment book things that a victim can do to increase her/his safety in their own residence. It may be impossible to do everything at once, but safety measures can be added step by step. Safety measures I can use include: A. I can change the locks on my doors and windows as soon as B. I can replace wooden doors and windows as soon as possible. C. I can install security systems including additional locks, D. I can purchase rope ladders to be used for escape from second E. I can install smoke detectors and purchase fire extinguishers for F. I can install an outside lighting system that lights up when a collect call to me or __________________________________. (friend or minister or DV Advocate) H. I will tell people who take care of my children which people School _____________________________________________ Babysitter __________________________________________ Day Care Staff _______________________________________ Pastor ______________________________________________ Sunday School Teacher ________________________________ Others _____________________________________________ I. I can inform _______________________________________, Step 4: Safety with a Restraining Order. Abusers may or may
not obey restraining orders. I recognize that I may need to ask the police and the court to enforce my restraining order. Some steps that I can take to help the enforcement of my restraining A. I will call the police if my abuser tries to make contact with me. B. I will keep my restraining order ________________________.(location) ALWAYS KEEP IT ON OR NEAR YOUR PERSON. C. I will give my protection order to police departments in the D. There should be a county registry of restraining orders that all E. If I often visit other counties, I might file my protection order F. I can call the local domestic violence program if I am not sure G. I will inform my employer, my minister, my closest friend and H. If my partner destroys my restraining order, I can get another copy I. If my partner violates the restraining order, I can call the police J. If the police do not help, I can contact my Advocate or Attorney K. I can also file a private criminal complaint with the district decide if and when he/she will tell others that their partner has abused them and that he/she may be at continued risk. Friends, family and co-workers can help to protect victims. Each victim should consider carefully which people to invite to help secure his/her safety. I might do any or all of the following: A. I can inform my boss, the security supervisor and _________ B. I can ask ___________________________ to help screen my C. When leaving work, I can ____________________________ D. When driving home, if problems occur, I can _____________ E. If I use public transit, I can ___________________________ F. I will go to different grocery stores and shopping malls to conduct G. I can use a different bank and take care of my banking at hours H. I can also _________________________________________
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